help...how to get over a guy you adore

hopelesslydevoted · Joined: 29 Jan 2007 Posts: 1 Location: aus

i NEEEEEEEEEED to get over a guy i have liked for 4 years...
HELP!!!
have tried lots but everyone help is all welcome!
xx

nush · Joined: 25 Jan 2007 Posts: 8

hey girl, i know exactly how you feel and if you read my 'mixed signals' post, you will discover that you are not alone in trying to get over someone. ive known my friend for 3 years and he has never flirted with me before until recently. so naturally i started liking the attention and liking him and now i can't stop thinking about him. and he already made it clear that if he ever liked me that way then it would only be lust. so i think in order to get over a guy, you are going to have to really try and focus on keeping yourself busy around other people and other things. if he calls, be normal. if you see him, be normal. if he's playing hard to get like my friend then don't chase after him because you are only encouraging him to enjoy the attention you are giving him. and in my case my friend is only being immature by avoiding me. anyway so just make new friends or hang out with other already existing ones. maybe even go to a counsellor if it is really that hard to get over him. but the only obvious answer is that it will take time. and i pretty much solved my own problem but i still don't know if it is going to work or not. so if it works for you maybe there is some hope for me. so let me know how things go with you...good luck, mwa!

xoxo

lovespuppysmorethanu · Joined: 14 Apr 2007 Posts: 3

do all girls have the same problem?!

BulgarianRose · Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 4:48 am Post subject:

I know my advice might be coming a little late but take it from me, honey, the two thingd you shouldn't run after are guys and buses.You know why - because another one is coming just round the corner. I know it's hard for you I've been trough it lots of times (being that I'm 16).Just let it go... Start thinking about yourself and what you want because believe me that's the onely thing that matters. Guys can't be relied on in most cases but you can always rely on YOURSELF Exclamation

myboo2cute · Joined: 07 Jun 2007 Posts: 1

ive been thru it lots of tyme ive tried saying i dont like him i hate him i like sumone else but it doesnt work to truly get over him try telling him or just slowly get him out ur mind good luck gee gee

~sharna~ · Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 1 Location: Australia

i have been through this many times. i have had so much trouble trying to get over someone i like. i like this guy that i was really good friends with for about 4 years but i was too shy to say anything. when i finally did, he rejected me. so, to get over him, i concetrated on things i knew i could have, and tried to avoid him. me liking him kind of ruined our friendship, so now, if i have a crush on friends, i just try to push it away and concentrate on the things i can have.

~sharna~

Brooke · Joined: 07 Jul 2009 Posts: 49

How have you girls gone 'getting over' these guys?
Do you have any tips you found useful!?

...frenemy... · Joined: 25 Oct 2009 Posts: 4 Location: Naga City

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Hey guys, i am new here in this site so i don't know any of you, but i am very much happy to join you...well i picked your post because i have the same experience. I adore a guy actually he is my best friend, my seatmate in class and my textmate even at 12midnight. I just met him at my first day of class in my 1st year. He was very nice to me and I was to him. I actually help me get over his ex because he was really hurt and that started the text messages we sent to each other...he even said I love you to me...surely i wouldn't take that seriously but when i caught myself into a problem he was beside me. encouraging me and all. Then summer came...i finally realize I love him...then one night he was begging me to tell him my crush and I said it was him..he was happy..we never stop texting util the last week of summer. He told me he was excited to see me...then June 3,i was now a Sophomore student...i was looking for him then i met my old classmates and then i saw him, he just walked pass me like i am invisible to him. I was hurt..i texted him bu7t he didn't reply..then up to now the situation is just getting worse...he i don't understand...he is just taking it up to the next level...bringing me down by hitting my personal life and my academic life...i tried to forget him..so i just cried for the last time and throw all the things that reminded me of him..now even if he hates me I just let him do whatever he wants but i am just happy..

Brooke · Joined: 07 Jul 2009 Posts: 49

That sounds horrible! Especially as you have not been provided with an explanation...

Do remember that even though you may be the same age, boys and girls mature at different stages. You may find that you are mature but he is not.

Step away and give yourself time to recover from him and your ex.

Spend more time with your friends and family and in time you will realise that you don't need him and once you become happy within yourself again you will find that you attract other fun boys and girls!

Don't shed another tear- I was once told not to cry over someone who will not cry over you. His not worth your tears.

robson12 · Joined: 04 Sep 2009 Posts: 14

So sad!Woman Always Call Back Our Yesterdays !

...frenemy... · Joined: 25 Oct 2009 Posts: 4 Location: Naga City

"A Part of Loving is learning to Let Go..."
"We must set them free so that we can also set our feelings free and our pains free."
"We must not search for the Love of our life because every person there is someone destined for you, and it will come at the right time and place."

...frenemy... · Joined: 25 Oct 2009 Posts: 4 Location: Naga City

"A Part of Loving is learning to Let Go..."
"We must set them free so that we can also set our feelings free and our pains free."
"We must not search for the Love of our life because every person there is someone destined for you, and it will come at the right time and place."

Brooke · Joined: 07 Jul 2009 Posts: 49

Great quote '...frenemy...'!