How can I be sure I’m in love?

Jane

A/ There’s only one way - by searching your own heart. No-one else can tell you and there is no set definition for `love’ I’d be a millionaire if I could give you a precise answer to this question. I think I know for myself what love is but each of us has to discover this truth in his own heart. Sure there are signs like caring, selflessness, enduring feelings, trust and so on but ultimately, every one of us has `loved’ and been wrong or been loved and hurt.

Real love can’t hurt. And I believe that real love exists inside us and not in the object of our love. So trust your own feelings and be prepared to make mistakes along the way. Sometimes, by finding out what something ISN’T, we get closer to the true essence of what it IS.

It’s good to also keep a clear distinction in your mind between love and being `in love.’ These are quite different. Being in love is magical and transitory. We all want and need to experience this feeling in our lives but love is deeper and more lasting and is forged over time.




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