Dear FIONA,
I am 17 and have been dating for a couple of years but every guy I meet is a loser. They start out seeming okay - I like guys who are muscly with longish hair - but they end up boring me. What can I do? All my girlfriends have guys they really like - I'm sick of this.
Signed Rebecca
Rebecca - you probably need to do some work on yourself, examining your values and self worth and working out why you keep falling for the same kind of guy. All brawn no brain makes Jack a dull boy, so why do you go for him?
So the first part of this magick is a self awareness ritual and the second a 'come to me, man of my dreams spell."
Sit in front of a mirror surrounded by a circle of seven white candles for purity and spiritual enlightenment. Burn sticks of sandalwood and frankincense incense for wisdom and clarity. In each hand hold a rose - a symbol of love and female sexuality. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths and take your awareness inwards to a sense of inner peace. Concentrate on what qualities you really desire in a guy. When you have a very clear vision and feel calm and ready, open your eyes and gaze at yourself in the mirror. Say:
passion and fulfilment take their place
in my heart and in my mind
the perfect guy is now mine to find"
It's important that you have a really clear image of the guy you want in your life and also a strong sense of self worth - you deserve the best and you'll settle for nothing less!
The next step of the spell is to conjure the man of your dreams.
By the light of red candles, on a piece of red paper in black pen write a description of the person you desire - don't specify a specific person - that would be interfering with their free will and the spell would backfire.
Visualise the qualities you desire, perhaps:
Gentle caresses
Long sensuous kisses
Laughs and good conversation
Friendship and fun
When your list is finished, pluck three petals from each of your roses and place on your list. Taking one of the candles, drip drops of wax on the petals to seal them and your desire to the paper, as you say:
man of my dreams
as is my will
So Mote it Be"
Fold the paper over so that the wax seals. Place this under your pillow. As you sleep you will have visions of your guy - be on the look out for him after this, because he will appear to you within 14 days.
Remember magick works with the intent you fuel it with and with your desire - so suspend any disbelief and fear. The universe is full of unimaginable potential and you can tap into this to realise your goals - just believe in your own infinite potential and know that all the magick you need is inside you, you just have to unleash it.
- FIONA HORNE