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Dear Boyfriend-less,

Girlfriend, your current experience of being 'boyfriend-less' is very common amongst girls your age, and let me tell you, girls a lot older as well! You say that you are 'fat' and 'not the best looking' girl. Anyway, 'best looking' according to whose standard? I know you have heard this from me many times before, but I will repeat it. Attraction is an enigma, which extends way beyond a mere physical (chemical) reaction. That is what makes it so exciting. First of all, I suggest that you challenge these negative thoughts that you have and start to develop your confidence. Try and focus on your positive attributes - both physical and emotional. I am not saying to look into your mirror and say 'I am the greatest of them all'. Rather, it is about acknowledging, for example, that you have a great smile, and are loyal and/or very friendly. Confidence in a girl is alluring to most guys. At age 13, you are just beginning to develop your self-confidence as well as learn more about the game of 'love and dating'. And from one girl to another, don't forget the essentials; treat yourself to a new lipstick, or some serious retail therapy . Joining the local gym is also a good idea. Gym is not only a great self-esteem booster but gyms are infested with guys! And remember to enjoy yourself in the process!