Hi Dr Dejour,
I am a 16 (nearly 17) year old boy and I have just started being sexually active with my girlfriend who is 17. She makes me horny and I get an erection but when we go to have sex, my penis goes soft. She thinks I don't want to have sex with her and that I don't love her. I do love her and I do want to have sex with her. Help, what is wrong with me?
Signed About-to-be-dumped.
Dear Monsieur-to-be-dumped,
(Or not to be...)
Well, easy one. Penetrative sex is OFF the menu. Not allowed AT ALL. What is allowed is any amount of pleasuring your girlfriend and the more, the better. Initially she should avoid touching your penis. So kissing is OK, massage and touching of any part of the body that is not the penis is OK, for a while (make an agreement with your girlfriend). Then for the next while, she can touch your penis (with whatever), but you are not allowed to come. Then next 'while', bring you to orgasm through touching BUT PENETRATION IS NOT ALLOWED.
Then, try again. And if this doesn't work, please email me back.
Dr Dejour.