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Dear Invisible,

You need to make yourself 'visible'. Find a way to talk to this guy. There are two main options. The first involves great confidence. Approach him and tell him that you have been admiring him from afar. By doing this, you will sooner rather than later get a feeling for what (if anything) to expect from this guy in the future. The second option involves a little more subtlety. You and your friend could go up to this guy the next time you see him. Yes, it sounds a little corny but it is the oldest trick in the book. Ask him for change, or ask him for the time. Thank him kindly. Then, if it feels right, introduce yourselves. Observe how receptive he is towards both your friend and yourself. Remember not to be too self-critical, as it will only be a first meeting. Take into account that he may be a little shy, possibly be in a negative mood, or take the worst possible scenario; he may be attached (ooooohhhhh!!). To better determine whether a potential relationship is on the cards, I suggest building a rapport with this guy. Say hello to him every time you see him at the Station. This will make it easier to approach him over time. Providing you feel confident enough, you may eventually ask him out for coffee or a movie on a one-to one basis. Alternatively, you may feel more at ease asking him out to a party or in a similar group setting. Regardless of the setting you opt for, talk to him and observe his behavior. How responsive is he towards you? Use your female intuition. Whatever you do, be yourself. Do not try and emulate somebody else. You have your own style, and your own personality. Flaunt it. Do not hide behind your friend. Be confident. If you think and feel confident and chic, you will no doubt come across that way. Give it time. But whatever you do, don't wait too long, as this guy will eventually get his own wheels! Whichever way it turns out, at least this way you can say you gave it a go.