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Dear Caught-In-The-Middle,

Indeed, it is a very common situation in which you find yourself. It seems to me that you are unsure as to whether you want to engage in a sexual relationship with these guys who are after you. I suggest you take the time to reflect on what it is that you want and why. Take the time to explore your values and your needs at this point in time in your life. Try not to complicate matters and give in to having sex with these guys out of fear of embarrassment or ridicule. Think about it, if you feel threatened by these guys then ask yourself are these guys really worth it? I think not! And even if you are attracted to one of them, remember, having sex is not always a guarantee that a romantic relationship will blossom. Romantic relationships typically characterised by love and respect take time to grow and develop. However, in saying this, I am not alluding to the fact that there is not an opportunity for you and this guy to eventually get together. What I am saying though, is if this guy is really interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with you, he should (ideally!) be willing to wait for sex (or more correctly, making love with you). However, if you do feel right about engaging in sexual relationships with these guys, just think SAFE SEX! It is also important to be aware that sexual promiscuity can lead to nasty situations, from unexpected pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases to feelings of guilt, and confusion and misperceptions about your self-worth. Take care and be brave, girlfriend.