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Dear Suffocated,

This is a common problem you are facing. I imagine you are feeling quite annoyed and frustrated. It sounds like you need some 'time out' girlfriend. You obviously are a type who enjoys the company of a variety of different friends. This is not a bad thing. Quite the contrary instead. On the other hand, I suspect your friend is feeling a slight case of the green-eyed monster (i.e. jealousy/insecurity). From girlfriend to girlfriend here is a bit of advice for you. Ohhhh, you sigh in relief! I suggest you confront your friend in person (telephone calls are not the way to go) and reassure her that you cherish her friendship. Tell her that the fact that you have different groups of friends does not mean that you love her, respect her, and enjoy her company any less. Express to her that it is important for you to see other friends as well as have some personal space. However, focus on your approach! Remember that it is sometimes how you get the message across and not what the message is per se`. It is possible to be straightforward and be sensitive, empathetic, and understanding at the same time. It may also be a good idea to sometimes invite your friend out to parties or 'goss' sessions that you and your other friends have. If you show some initiative your friend may feel more secure about the status of the friendship. Admittedly, it may take time. Patience is a virtue!