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Dear No Freedom,

This is a very common problem and I can understand your frustrations. Your parents obviously love and care about you; hence, their concern for your well-being in the romantic relationship department. Think about it. Eighteen is not far away! You are only '13' and have plenty of time to experience the highs and lows of romantic love. In the meantime, focus on exploring your own-self identity, and the building of your female and male friendships. In the event that you happen to meet a guy you are attracted to romantically, then ACT. There is no point REACTING in anticipation. You can try talking to your parents about your feelings, perceptions and values about the importance of romantic relationships, and how you respect their feelings. Remember to focus on 'I' statements as opposed to 'You' statements, which will be perceived by your parents as feelings of blame and resentment towards them (ie the rebellious teenager syndrome!). Alternatively, or in addition to, invite some male and female friends (including the guy you are keen on) over to your house. This will be a perfect opportunity for you to demonstrate to your parents that relationships with males do not always equate with stupid things (I think they meant to say, SEX!). Instead, males also equate with emotional well-being (at least on most occasions, !!), and more importantly, your emotional well-being. Maybe over time, your parents will come to realise and respect your personal needs and perspectives. This may sound like an impossible dream, but believe me, there have been (and there continue to be) cases of success! Be patient and most of all, be thoughtful in your approach. May the force of love be with you sister!