Social anxiety is part of what makes us human. We all want to belong, and social anxiety helps us to moderate our behaviour so we remember to leave the house with our pants on! Some level of social anxiety is helpful, but how do we know when our worries about making a social gaffe have become a problem?
Dr Eric Goodman specialises in helping those with debilitating levels of social anxiety. He knows that many people are walking around with a secret: they experience social anxiety!
At the same time, they are bombarded by messages from books, articles and gurus that lead them to believe that social anxiety is a disease that needs to be cured. Consequently, along with social anxiety, they carry shame " believing that there is something wrong with them that must be fixed before they can live a 'normal' life. Often, they are waiting for the magical day when their social anxiety vanishes forever before pursuing their social goals, such as increasing friendships, finding a romantic partner, or advancing in their career. The problem is that social anxiety is normal and, to some degree, it will remain a lifelong companion. Social Courage presents a step‐by‐step, structured program for minimising suffering in the face of social anxiety while giving readers the tools to boldly go towards their social goals. It combines strategies from Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and Compassion‐Focused Therapy to form 'CBT 2.0', to help readers cope and thrive with anxious thoughts and emotions using practical exercises and case studies. Whether readers are struggling with social anxiety of phobic proportions or are just held back when it comes to public speaking or meeting a specific social goal, Social Courage presents a path forward while minimising suffering along the way.
Dr Eric Goodman, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, author and speaker who specialises in helping people face their social fears and anxiety disorders. He has been a lecturer at Northeastern University and California Polytechnic State University. In addition to his private practice in San Luis Obispo, California, he runs Social Courage groups and retreats. When he is not busy 'scaring' his clients, he can be found scaring his three kids and patient wife .
Social Courage
Exisle Publishing
Author: Dr Eric Goodman
RRP: $29.99
Question: What inspired you to write Social Courage?
Dr Eric Goodman: Social anxiety is too often seen as a disease to be cured or an enemy that needs to be vanquished. Most clients that come to me with concerns about social anxiety want it gone…all of it!
The problem is that social anxiety is a normal human experience-we are hard-wired to have at least some social wariness in at least some situations. In this age of digital bombardment of images of social perfection people often mistakenly compare their inner experience of anxiety with other people's external appearance of "It's all good." When that happens, they may feel ashamed of experiencing social anxiety.
I wrote Social Courage to counter those messages. I want to help people realise that it is okay to experience social anxiety. I want to teach them how to suffer less when it shows up, how to prevent their anxiety from turning phobic, and what to do when that happens.
Question: How do we know if our worries are becoming a problem?
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