Cold Shoulder

I'm 15, a little young to be asking for love advice maybe.
But here's my problem - a year ago I started liking a friend of mine and I knew he liked me so we started going out but then I wasn't really 'commited' so we broke up and then about 3 months later we went out again but I kind of dumped him and he fell hard. He was awful to me for ages, and now I think we are friends again but he is still really cold to me, and it's hard because we are in the same group at school, and his friends are my friends. He is always ripping me off and it really hurts. But I still like him and I was such an idiot for dumping him, and I want my first kiss to be with him but when I asked, he just said 'No' and then 'Just because'.

I really don't know what to do. Please get back to me.
Thank you,
Zoe

A.
Whenever I get a letter from a very young person, I am careful not to minimise the importance of the question. At the same time, I have to answer truthfully. Teenagers change emotions like they do underwear so the most intense problem one day is forgotten the next.

All your chopping and changing is natural at your age - how else are you going to find out what you really want? You are not an idiot for dumping him. You just did what you thought was right at the time. I don't think you can do anything right now to change his mind. Trust that your first kiss will be special whoever it's with but be selective as you're precious and shouldn't give yourself away too easily. Maybe you really were only meant to be friends with this guy. Time will tell. Relax in the meantime.






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